Posts by cult classic

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Girls - what subject got you thinking?

by wannabefree in

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reading the post "how long did it take you to leave", i can't help but be envious of those of you who refer to leaving as a "we" event.. i know it has been said that women tend to react to feelings/emotions along with logic, can you help me with ideas that got you to feel something was wrong?

what should i work on planting with my wife?.

thanks..

cult classic

That's a good question. For years I noticed how worn out my family was doing the witness thing. I just started telling my family that it's ok to take a break. If you don't want to go to the meetings you can just say , "hey i'm tired this evening I don't want to go" I would tell my irregular family members that they shouldn't try to do it all, just go when they felt like it. I could see the burden being lifted. Of course most of them are super dubs so they thought my advice was way off base. But a couple have listened and they seem happier even if they are not completely out. Me and hubby just totally took the pressure off of ourselves and allowed ourselves to voice our concerns without having to make any decisions about anything.

That's in addition to the other crap we got tired of with the org.

Anything you can say or do to help her get in touch with her feelings would be a great start. We are trained to disconnect from our feelings so that we no longer recognize when we are not happy.

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Friends

by snowbird in

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do you get a warm, fuzzy-wuzzy feeling when certain posters show up on your threads?.

i most certainly do.. syl.

cult classic

I feel really uplifted when you guys post on my threads. Just to have someone who understands me and takes the time to "speak" w/ me brightens my day.

You guys are the best!

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update on why the Elders have been so busy trying to contact me

by troubled mind in

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they have stopped by our house multiple times (we have been gone or just ignored their knocks) multiple phone messages requesting it is urgent that i call them back .

(screened all calls lately ).

today the phone rings and i tell my husband screw it i am answering and putting an end to this .. the elder on the other line is not the one that has been stopping by ,but rather my husbands ex-nephew through marriage .

cult classic

Hey TM I thought you handled that perfectly. I was wondering what was going on with that situation. They are simple.

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What are your jw's saying about the 'generation'?

by carla in

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i am curious as to what current jw's are saying about the new 'generation' definition especially now that the assemblies are in full swing.

or do they just brush it off as usual?.

how would they have a normal (not a jw) discussion in public if the topic got onto say... our father's generation did things different.... that generation blah, blah..... you know common terms us worldlies & media use.

cult classic

lol jwinprotest - it is maddening isn't it? A few in my immediate family think it's crap. The rest so far have been quiet about it. My extended family hasn't studied it yet so I'll post their responses after the WT lesson. They are completely braindead and will probably go the "isn't this new light wonderful" route.

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Does "God" Exist?

by minimus in

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do you believe in "god" at all?.

cult classic

thetrueone - good question. What made the few people back in the day soooo special that God spoke to them? He hasn't found that caliber among anyone else since? Doesn't make sense. And as Judge Judy says , "If it doesn't make sense it probably isn't true."

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Why do you visit this site?

by exwhyzee in

if being one of jw's is truly behind you, why do you visit this site years later to discuss the subject ?

i know why i do but am curious why others do and how long it will continue.

when will enough be enough?.

cult classic

I visit the site because I love the people who post here. At least I think I do....

I have been able to receive excellent advice on how to move forward in life after being a JW. I love the feeling of comraderie I find here. The people are intelligent, funny and insightful. And most seem to have a geniune interest in helping when they can.

We discuss the WT because that is what we know. Just as we could easily discuss another subject that we're familiar with. It's not just about getting over having been a witness. Once you start posting here your motivations may change. If you get tired of posting/reading here simply stop. There are no rules. But like others you may soon value popping in just to see what everyone's up to, talking about and to offer help to the newbies.

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A few new pictures from Alaska

by upnorth in

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last week (i left on 5-17-10) i was sent to juneau to work i took about 5 gb worth of pictures and a few short video clips.

the camera was a nikon coolpix l22, it's a pretty decent little camera.

unfortunately it had a dust spot or two under the lens.

cult classic

Thank you for sharing those upnorth. I have to find my way there soon. Absolutely beautiful.

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Anyone been out for a long time, then for whatever reason went to a meeting or convention? What was it like to you now?

by Think About It in

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i've been out 15 yrs and never attended again.

anyone been out a long time and for whatever reason went to a meeting or convention?

what was it like to you then?

cult classic

Yeah we left in 06 and went back for a relative's part in 08. The funny thing is when you're still in but waking up you get a sense of how twisted it is. But to go back after a good break is unbearable.

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Anyone been out for a long time, then for whatever reason went to a meeting or convention? What was it like to you now?

by Think About It in

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i've been out 15 yrs and never attended again.

anyone been out a long time and for whatever reason went to a meeting or convention?

what was it like to you then?

cult classic

I actually heard the material for the first time. It was awful. Being a born-in you take it all as gospel, it's your first language. Every born-in, raised-in JW owes it to themselves to take a break and then go back and listen to it with fresh ears. I bet that would do it for most witnesses.

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JW's and divorce

by man in black in

back in the early 80's i was dating a sister from the southern part of illinois, and i remember how many ladies were divorced.. fast forward to the current day,,,,,,,,.

i was trolling on facebook last night, and i hit the mother lode, one old friend (divorced) of mine has a son who still keeps in contact with most of these ladies that he grew up with.. and guess what ?.

most of them got married, had kids, and are now single.

cult classic

When the sisters are having marital problems. They usually get lots of support to leave the husband. JW or worldly. I have seen this so many times. All the JW wife has to do is come up with some crap story about how she's being put in spiritual danger and voila her divorced is sanctioned by the other lonely crabby older sisters in the congregation. And the elders aren't gonna say much about it either.